"The smaller the place; The more vicious the gossips will be"
Gossip. Juicy news about others. Whether it's true or not, who cares? All the gossip aficionados care is how 'hot' the news is. They don't care about its damaging potential to the person they're gossiping about. All they want is to savor every delicious morsel of gossip.
What triggered my interest to blog about this? Well, things that I've observed over the years, of course. Not quite so long ago a friend was a target of gossip. Her story became hot fodder up to a point that it sickens me.
Why do people gossip? Harmless gossip is fine, but I really hate the ones that are malicious and only serves to destroy others. So, let me talk/rant about these malicious story-spreaders. I think these people gossip because they are deeply insecure. You see, insecurity breeds jealousy and in turn, jealousy breeds gossip. Maybe they feel threatened by their target and a direct confrontation may not be feasible so what better way is there to hurt that person than spreading lies about him/her?
When another friend came to me to talk about the gossip being passed around about her I sympathized with her. "I've been there a few times myself babe", I told her. Just that over the years, I've learned to protect myself from being a target. To avoid being a target, we must understand the psyche of the people around us. Some places I've been to can't accept friendship between people of opposite sex, friendship that is totally platonic. Some places label cheerful, friendly and outgoing girls as 'fast'. Such narrow-minded views, isn't it? So over here, I'm not close with any male colleagues (unless they're family) and anyway, I am already as weird as anyone could get so they'll just ignore my eccentricities.
How should we deal with this problem? For me, I don't entertain gossips. People pass juicy tales to me, it ends with me. Honestly, I have better things to do with my brain. There are more mentally-stimulating things out there to do than dwell in gossips. When people gossip about me, I'll just shrug it off (unless it's too serious that it affects my loved ones). Be unfazed about it all, eventually the gossip will die on its own. Also it helps that if one is a very frank person. Tak pasal-pasal kena tanya point-blank dengan aku karang. LOL!
Anyway, I believe in karmic retribution. One day, they will get a taste of their own medicine. Who knows?
4 comments:
Gossip is the kampung grape vine! Biasa lah, in small places, there is not much to talk about, so, talk about other people lah ...
Baka nya meh ko runding aku puteri (baka tek dipadah aku ngagai kawan aku nya).
Uji ari tek bejaku ka hal tepi kain org bukai, kan manah agik enti sidak tu mengisi masa lapang bekebun ka, betanam jagung ka, at least bulih sida anak duit (perut pun kenyang). Enda la percuma bulih dosa. LOL!
Enti enggai bekebun asuh main sudoku sida ia...LOL
Favourite pastime in small towns. Got nothing else better to do mah! LOL!!!
Ya lo... sadly true.
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